Navigating Neurodiversity
Thoughts, perceptions, behaviors, and emotions shape our communication and connection in relationships.
Genetics coupled with life experiences influence how each of our brains work.
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Unveiling the FIRST Communication Model for Neurodiverse Relationships
Originally designed for my own neurodiverse relationships, this program has now become a resource for hundreds of couples worldwide!
Battle Busters: Dramatically decrease the frequency and intensity of disagreements and conflict with your partner.
Crack the Communication Code: Relationship 2.0: Discover four distinct stages of communication and understand their impact on your interactions.
Gain access to invaluable tools and strategies to foster clear and meaningful communication.
How I’m Different
Although my professional training and experience have provided tremendous insight, my own neurodiverse relationships have been my personal training ground for understanding and embracing neurodiversity.
- 19-year neurodiverse marriage
- Autistic daughter and ADHD son
- Neurodivergent Family and Close Friends
In over two decades, I have helped thousands of individuals, couples, families, students, and colleagues in over 13 countries as a THERAPIST, PROFESSOR, COACH, and GLOBAL EDUCATOR with:
- Autism
- ADHD
- Abuse
- Trauma
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Bipolar Disorder
- Brain Injury
Education
how the differences in your neurotypes cause confusion and misunderstandings. This provides you with a framework for understanding your relationship in a totally new way and will give you some immediate, initial, relief from the confusion and misunderstandings.
Clarity
one of you has traits and characteristics of neurodiversity. My comprehensive relationship evaluation assesses both of you to see how you are different from one another – not just how one of you is different from the world. Clarity is also a critical part of discernment for partners who feel hopeless. Getting clarity is essential for identifying a direction to take in your relationship, and in your education and coaching.
Direction
relationships for a long time are often considering leaving or ending the relationship. One of the biggest mistakes I’ve seen therapists and couples make when starting counseling or coaching is immediately working on relationship repair. FIRST, you must determine if being in the relationship is the direction you are taking. This isn’t always a quick or easy process, but it cannot be skipped. I will meet you where you are, and help you get to where you want, and need, to be.
Solution
struggle with feeling confident about your choice, then you need solutions for moving forward. If you are choosing to stay in your relationship to work on resolving painful disconnection by developing new skills within a neurodiverse framework, I will pull out my toolbox and we’ll get to work! If you have decided that you’ve reached the end of your relationship and need help making this transition, I will help you work through the pain, grief, and upheaval of such a massive change to your world.
CAN YOU RELATE TO THESE EMAIL EXCERPTS?
“Trying to find more support for our relationship. I want to find something to help my partner understand me more and how we can be together as a happy couple again.”
“We’ve been married for over 16 years and have always struggled to communicate despite having seen several counselors over the years. We are in a desperate situation and don’t want to get divorced. We need some help!“
“We have been to other therapists who didn’t pick up on the neurodiversity (which I think is present). I am not sure if I have the energy left to save my marriage, but I would really appreciate a session to see if you think you can help us.“
“I am trying to figure out if my partner is autistic (pretty sure), narcissistic, or both. I was diagnosed with ADHD and our 18-year-old daughter has ADHD and autism…“
LET’S GET YOU SOME HELP!
WORK WITH ME
I believe what truly matters is how your individual differences shape and influence each of you. By understanding and embracing your differences, you can foster a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other.
WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY IF YOU :
- want expert clarity about neurodiverse traits.
- need to distinguish toxic behaviors from neurodivergence.
- are considering ending a relationship.
- need skilled help with communication.
- are willing and motivated to learn and grow.
WORK WITH ME
I believe what truly matters is how your individual differences shape and influence each of you. By understanding and embracing your differences, you can foster a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other.
WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY IF YOU :
- want expert clarity about neurodiverse traits.
- need to distinguish toxic behaviors from neurodivergence.
- are considering ending a relationship.
- need skilled help with communication.
- are willing and motivated to learn and grow.
PRIVATE COACHING
Begin with an initial consultation which includes a neurodiversity screening to explore your relationships challenges, fears, strengths, and goals. I’ll provide immediate feedback and guidance along with a personalized coaching strategy based on your specific needs.
Private coaching focuses on improving your overall fulfillment and quality of life.
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION
Get expert insight about each of your unique traits impact your relationship Assessment includes testing for neurodivergent characteristics, executive functioning, sensory processing, personality, conflict styles, and other relationship dynamics.
This evaluation is eye-opening and provides a roadmap for navigating your life and relationship.
MATT & JEN
From the Brink of Divorce to Thriving
Like many couples, Matt and Jen found themselves at a crossroads in their relationship, struggling to understand the hurt caused by misunderstandings. After working with me in private coaching, and participating in my COMMUNICATION PROGRAM, they experienced a transformation they had feared was impossible.
Today, they navigate their relationship with newfound ease and empathy. Their story underscores the power of effective communication and serves as an inspiration to other neurodiverse couples embarking on a similar journey.
GET STARTED WITH A QUIZ
Get immediate feedback about yourself and your partner. I have adapted these autism assessments to include more female traits than most standardized autism tests. Each quiz includes a comprehensive PDF report.
Do you have neurodivergent characteristics that are similar to others who are diagnosed with autism?
This 10-question assessment is based on the Autism Quotient – 10 (AQ-10), but has been adapted to include female traits.
Does your partner have neurodivergent traits that are similar to others who are diagnosed with autism?
This 10-question assessment is based on the Autism Quotient – 10 (AQ-10), but has been adapted to include female traits.
TAKE THIS QUIZDiscover if your partner has autistic neurodivergent traits or characteristic behaviors of toxic (narcissistic and borderline) personalities – or both.
Autistic partners may appear to have similar traits and behaviors to toxic personalities, but the potential for a fulfilling relationship is vastly different.
This quiz will take approximately 15 minutes to complete.
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship
Podcast & Videocast
Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert in neurodiverse relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal, but direct, style of educating and coaching is a favorite of both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners and professionals around the globe. Join thousands in over 63 countries in listening to the most recent episodes here.
Follow the podcast on your favorite podcast platform or subscribe on YouTube to watch the videocast!
Learn With Me
I invite you to understand and embrace your differences to foster a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other. My extensive, and constantly growing, library of videos will guide you to greater relationship connection and fulfillment in life.
WHAT MY CLIENTS AND FOLLOWERS ARE SAYING
ABOUT ME, JODI CARLTON, MEd
As a leading expert in neurodiverse relationship dynamics, I have helped countless teenagers, parents, adults, and couples to understand brain differences in language, emotions, sensory processing, and behavior.
For me, neurodiversity is personal. My experience comes primarily from my own personal relationships: my 19-year marriage, other romantic partners, my children, other family members, and my closest friends.
I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have spent years recovering from codependency (“pathological kindness”) that developed in my childhood.
Someone once told me, “I can’t imagine the number of people you help because of your own experiences,” and that is my exact mission – to reach and guide you through your own journey of discovery and healing.
