Work With Me
My expertise comes from a combination of professional experience and personal relationships with neurodiverse family and friends.
Book a consultation with me to get feedback and guidance about your specific challenges. Most people report getting significant insight from this consultation. Discuss with me if on-going coaching or an evaluation would be beneficial to you.
What I Stand For…
I believe that what truly matters is how your individual differences shape and influence each of you. By understanding and embracing your differences, you can foster a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other.
Education
how the differences in your neurotypes cause confusion and misunderstandings. This provides you with a framework for understanding your relationship in a totally new way and will give you some immediate, initial, relief from the confusion and misunderstandings.
Clarity
one of you has traits and characteristics of neurodiversity. My comprehensive relationship evaluation assesses both of you to see how you are different from one another – not just how one of you is different from the world. Clarity is also a critical part of discernment for partners who feel hopeless. Getting clarity is essential for identifying a direction to take in your relationship, and in your education and coaching.
Direction
relationships for a long time are often considering leaving or ending the relationship. One of the biggest mistakes I’ve seen therapists and couples make when starting counseling or coaching is immediately working on relationship repair. FIRST, you must determine if being in the relationship is the direction you are taking. This isn’t always a quick or easy process, but it cannot be skipped. I will meet you where you are, and help you get to where you want, and need, to be.
Solution
struggle with feeling confident about your choice, then you need solutions for moving forward. If you are choosing to stay in your relationship to work on resolving painful disconnection by developing new skills within a neurodiverse framework, I will pull out my toolbox and we’ll get to work! If you have decided that you’ve reached the end of your relationship and need help making this transition, I will help you work through the pain, grief, and upheaval of such a massive change to your world.
Unique Options for the Unique YOU!
I believe that what truly matters is how your individual differences shape and influence each of you. By understanding and embracing your differences, you can foster a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other.
WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY IF YOU :
- want expert clarity about neurodiverse traits.
- need to distinguish toxic behaviors from neurodivergence.
- are considering ending a relationship.
- need skilled help with communication.
- are willing and motivated to learn and grow.

Unique Options for the Unique YOU!
I believe that what truly matters is how your individual differences shape and influence each of you. By understanding and embracing your differences, you can foster a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other.
WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY IF YOU :
- want expert clarity about neurodiverse traits.
- need to distinguish toxic behaviors from neurodivergence.
- are considering ending a relationship.
- need skilled help with communication.
- are willing and motivated to learn and grow.
PRIVATE COACHING
Begin with an initial consultation which includes a neurodiversity screening to explore your relationships challenges, fears, strengths, and goals. I’ll provide immediate feedback and guidance along with a personalized coaching strategy based on your specific needs.
Private coaching focuses on improving your overall fulfillment and quality of life.
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION
Get expert insight about each of your unique traits impact your relationship Assessment includes testing for neurodivergent characteristics, executive functioning, sensory processing, personality, conflict styles, and other relationship dynamics.
This evaluation is eye-opening and provides a roadmap for navigating your life and relationship.
Trait Assessments and Quizzes
Get some immediate feedback about yourself and your partner. I have adapted these autism assessments to include more female traits than most standardized autism tests. Each quiz includes a comprehensive PDF report.
Do you have neurodivergent characteristics that are similar to others who are diagnosed with autism?
This 10-question assessment is based on the Autism Quotient – 10 (AQ-10), but has been adapted to include female traits.
Does your partner have neurodivergent traits that are similar to others who are diagnosed with autism?
This 10-question assessment is based on the Autism Quotient – 10 (AQ-10), but has been adapted to include female traits.
Discover if your partner has autistic neurodivergent traits or characteristic behaviors of toxic (narcissistic and borderline) personalities – or both.
Autistic partners may appear to have similar traits and behaviors to toxic personalities, but the potential for a fulfilling relationship is vastly different.
This quiz will take approximately 15 minutes to complete.
Courses
I invite you to understand and embrace your differences to foster a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other. My extensive, and constantly growing, library of videos will guide you to greater relationship connection and fulfillment in life.

Mastering the Path To Peace
Start using the simple system that is helping others like you DRAMATICALLY decrease the frequency and … Read more

Crack the Communication Code
Get instant access to the COMMUNICATION program that was designed to bridge the gap between … Read more

Is Your Partner Autistic or Toxic?
YOU NEED TO KNOW WHICH RELATIONSHIP YOU’RE IN. This multi-module video course will help you … Read more
WHAT MY CLIENTS AND FOLLOWERS ARE SAYING
ABOUT ME, JODI CARLTON, MEd
I have over 20 years of combined experience as a therapist, educator, speaker, and coach. As a professor, I enjoyed inspiring curiosity in psychology students about human drives and motivation. I have worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and families worldwide in over 13 countries with challenges such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, abuse, and brain injury. In the early 2000’s, I developed a counseling program in Dublin, Ireland for the The National Brain Injury Association.
As a leading expert in neurodiverse relationship dynamics, I have helped countless teenagers, parents, adults, and couples to understand brain differences in language, emotions, sensory processing, and behavior.
For me, neurodiversity is personal. My experience comes primarily from my own personal relationships: my 19-year marriage, other romantic partners, my children, other family members, and my closest friends.
I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have spent years recovering from codependency (“pathological kindness”) that developed in my childhood.
Someone once told me, “I can’t imagine the number of people you help because of your own experiences,” and that is my exact mission – to reach and guide you through your own journey of discovery and healing.

