STOPPING THE BLEED:
REDUCE THE VOLUME OF CONFLICT
This is a critical first step for repairing your relationship in order to build healthy communication.
When you and your partner fight constantly OR you avoid each other more often than not to avoid an inevitable fight, it’s like having a huge wound in your relationship. Your relationship is figuratively “bleeding out” at an alarming rate. This kind of bleed can eventually be the death of a relationship just like a severed major artery can result in bleeding to death.
Reducing the volume of conflict is essential to healing your wounds and recovering. You can’t be bleeding out while attempting to build your bridge!
WHAT ARE YOU FIGHTING ABOUT?
How many times have you felt REALLY angry or hurt in the middle of an argument and then looked back on the disagreement and realized it was trivial? That fight may have put a wedge in your relationship for days or even weeks. This has certainly happened to me a lot – so I developed a simple tool that has dramatically reduced the conflict I have in my own relationships.
This tool will help you CHOOSE your BATTLES and let go of the ones that don’t really impact your life.
Oh, I can hear you protesting now….
“…but Jodi! When I’m hurt by something isn’t it ALWAYS important to express my hurt?! Why should I sweep it under the rug?!”
THE ANSWER IS THIS:
Because you will empower yourself to genuinely improve your own life to experience more peace and serenity!